I have learned that you cannot have a relationship with God + fear. It's a relationship with God + your heart = salvation.  Once you give Him all your heart (weaknesses, fears, dreams, desires) He will turn those ugly things into beautiful things. He will turn it into you praising Him because in the end you realize that all that time you thought this and that problem needed this specific solution that you thought you had the answer to  - well in the end the answer & solution to every single problem, bad relationship, career fallout, was JESUS.  The answer was that you needed to realize in every single thing your supposed to look to the author and finisher of our faith. We are supposed to look to Jesus Christ. Not in our own abilities. Our walk of faith is not our efforts. It is truly laying your life down completely ALL OF IT and saying Jesus I don't have the answers. What should I do? And allowing Him to speak to you through His word. Our walk of faith is COMPLETE & TOTAL DEPENDENCE on Him. That's why worry, fears, anxiety is supposed to be eliminated. It's because YOUR NOT SUPPOSED TO RELY ON YOUR EFFORTS. Your simply supposed to submit and surrender ALL TO GOD.  Say It's ALL HERE GOD. WHAT SHOULD I DO WITH IT? Our faith walk is holding on so tightly to Christ, that we don't trust that ANY of our efforts will bring us closer to Christ. It's simply going to the Word, feeding our soul with it, and praying to God with all of our concerns and seeing God's power being released into our lives and change people's lives around us. We are NOT SUPPOSED TO FEAR. Who we fear is who we honor. Honor God by fearing Him first which means we are motivated to live for Him since we realize God has our back! HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT HAS THE POWER to change the situation we are truly in!  So that's why we should not fear people! People will come and go. Feelings and emotions will change in them.  BECAUSE GOD CAN DO THAT. He can do that. He really can. I've seen answered prayers in people that I was afraid of, that I didn't know what else to do with! God brought life & hope back into those relationship and those situations every time. (With my family, career, and my boss)